We have been together for a decade, married for years. We tell each other just about everything and there is no one I like hanging out with more than my husband. This space is so safe, so sacred, and so honest that it has given permission to the expression of innermost longings, fantasies, and daydreams.
Are you a swinger? If you are and you have been in the lifestyle for a while, you have witnessed some comical, odd or just plain bizarre occurrences. It goes without saying that the whole process of swinging can lead to some very interesting experiences.
A buddy of mine, Jerry, has been married for a decade, a huge accomplishment nowadays, especially with someone so young. All of his adult life has been spent with the same woman, Carla. Actually, most of us were jealous of what he had.
Q: How much difference is there between fantasy and reality when it comes to swinging, "wife swapping" or threesomes? We had a fun night out with another couple who are neighbors the other weekend and the idea of swinging together and switching partners was floated, almost as a joke, but not really a joke. I want to consider it. What should we be considering before being tempted down this path?
Claire and her now-husband Eric not their real names spent about three years while they were dating going to a swingers club. Here's how it happened, according to Claire — and how she says it made their relationship stronger. We had been dating a few years and lived pretty far apart.
This is all part of the joy you may experience in learning and deepening your relationship through swinging. If you want to jump to the cons, click here. This is my favorite pro because it brings the topic of sex off the shelf and pushes it to the front of the line.
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In most civil societies around the world, the normative meaning of marriage is based on mutual monogamy on sexual, social and legal levels. However truth is that relationships are far too complex to be straitjacketed in absolute terms and herein lies the scope for fringe sexual practices like swinging. If you too are exploring the idea in your marriage, it would be better to go over the pros and cons first. Understand what it entails Swinging is a social and sexual exchange with one or more persons who are not your primary partner, based on the understanding that the encounter does not indicate infidelity.
I recently read an article from the New York Post that talks about the growing trend of wives giving their husbands permission to cheat. This permission, according to the article, is arranged through a contract between the couple. Wait a minute!
You should talk with your partner to see if you are both comfortable with the risks and share your worries with each other. You want to work together when deciding if the risks are worth the potential rewards of swinging. Right now, you are driving around in your car on the local roads doing the local speed limit.